I am reviewing the book Parenting with Love and Logic, Teaching children responsibility, by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.
The book begins with the words in the book cover “As parents, you have only a few years to prepare your children for a world that requires responsibility and maturity for survival. That only thought alone can send shivers down your parental spine!”
Plus: sense of humor, humorous style of writing.
Minus: shivers in my spine went down not from the amount of years that are given for parenting, but from the authors image of the world’s goal: survival. That is scary. Do parents think of survival in the first place? In developed country like the United States the survival for majority of people is provided. what kind of survival the authors meant?
People give birth to children so that they live happy, decent, meaningful life. If, instead, we prepare children for a world that requires responsibility and maturity to survive, we give children an image that the world they are going to enter is dangerous place: they need to know responsibility and be mature, otherwise they won’t survive. The responsibility and maturity in this case sound to a child as something threatening, and the whole meaning of the well intended idea becomes wrong. We need responsibility and maturity to thrive, not to survive.