Book’s content


Book one:    Man for Man

part1 Goals of Upbringing

ch.3   Upbringing must be unnoticeable

ch.23 It seems to us that we give too much to children, but in fact, we constantly don’t give them enough of something very important

part2 Conditions of Upbringing

ch.3   Parenting faith lives in us

ch.24 I hate you! How to decrease evil, one atom less

part3 Means of Upbringing

ch.8   Suspicion is especially dreadful for our children’s souls

ch.22 Teen age is a test for parental love and faithfulness

Book two:    Man in Man

part1 Upbringing of Heart

ch.1  Maybe someday people will create a world that doesn’t require fixing

ch.40 We ourselves sow the seeds of evil – no one else

part2 Upbringing of Spirit

ch.1 Why can someone kill another man?

ch.12 Our business is to raise conscientiousness

ch.24 Children risk to test their conscience

part3 Upbringing of Intelligence

ch.2  What intelligence do we mean in our book?

ch.11 We instill in a child that he is intelligent and he will become intelligent

Book three:  Man and Man

part1 Upbringing by Communication

ch.3 Common language is the language of desires not of command and obedience

part2 Upbringing by Cooperation

ch.14 Money and things

ch.18 The law of the cat: No one from the outside can improve relationships between two people

part3 Upbringing by Mutual Creativity

ch.8 Children are thankful people, children are thankless people

Names Index

General Index


The following text is shown in the back cover of the book:

By Simon Soloveychik

This short story struck me.

My friend, a very good man, answered my question of upbringing.

“My father didn’t spend any time with me.  But whenever during the night I woke up I saw a slit of light under his door.  He worked… And I guess this slit of light taught me!”

Many good people say that their parents did not pay attention to them because they were busy, and “I grew by myself…”

Parents didn’t bring up, didn’t spend time with children, didn’t pay attention – they were busy, but the result was wonderful.  Does it just happen?  No, there must be some secret there.  How does it happen that slits of light teach, ringing door bells teach, a photo of father who was a soldier teaches – and he isn’t even alive, the father; he didn’t come back from the war, but he teaches!

Maybe there is an upbringing without upbringing?

Even children know where children come from; but where do good children come from?

Parenting for everyone is quite a difficult science, as all sciences are.  It does not instruct how to live and what to be.  It does not even prescribe recipes for upbringing.  It only investigates in which circumstances children will be all right, and in which circumstances they will definitely get into trouble.

·         What are two basic needs of children?

·         Why is parental suspicion dreadful for children souls?

·         Why does a burning desire for happiness matter the most?

·         Where does evil come from?

·         Is it possible to indulge a child with joy?

·         How do problems in upbringing turn out to be problems of justice?

·         What is needed for compassion to appear in a child?

·         Who has the right to be irritated?

·         Why is power struggle the worst thing in parenting?

·         Why is magnanimity a must in upbringing?

·         Do children learn from their successes and achievements or from their mistakes?

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{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Augusta January 5, 2006 at 12:06 pm

What a great topic! One worth exploring. I will be slowly reading it. It seems to me that answers to how to bring up children existed and still do in our Native knowledge, values, cultures.


Anara December 7, 2006 at 2:12 pm

Only the book of Soloveychik is as if it is written especially for me. I became more peaceful in my relationship with children. I am scolding them less and I stopped punishing them at all. I began to pay attention to what I say to my children. I analyze and understand more about myself.


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