Book’s content
Book one: Man for Man
part1 Goals of Upbringing
part2 Conditions of Upbringing
part3 Means of Upbringing
ch.8 Suspicion is especially dreadful for our children’s souls
Book two: Man in Man
part1 Upbringing of Heart
ch.1 Maybe someday people will create a world that doesn’t require fixing
part2 Upbringing of Spirit
ch.1 Why can someone kill another man?
part3 Upbringing of Intelligence
ch.2 What intelligence do we mean in our book?
ch.11 We instill in a child that he is intelligent and he will become intelligent
Book three: Man and Man
part1 Upbringing by Communication
ch.3 Common language is the language of desires not of command and obedience
part2 Upbringing by Cooperation
ch.14 Money and things
ch.18 The law of the cat: No one from the outside can improve relationships between two people
part3 Upbringing by Mutual Creativity
ch.8 Children are thankful people, children are thankless people
The following text is shown in the back cover of the book:
By Simon Soloveychik
This short story struck me.
My friend, a very good man, answered my question of upbringing.
“My father didn’t spend any time with me. But whenever during the night I woke up I saw a slit of light under his door. He worked… And I guess this slit of light taught me!”
Many good people say that their parents did not pay attention to them because they were busy, and “I grew by myself…”
Parents didn’t bring up, didn’t spend time with children, didn’t pay attention – they were busy, but the result was wonderful. Does it just happen? No, there must be some secret there. How does it happen that slits of light teach, ringing door bells teach, a photo of father who was a soldier teaches – and he isn’t even alive, the father; he didn’t come back from the war, but he teaches!
Maybe there is an upbringing without upbringing?
Even children know where children come from; but where do good children come from?
Parenting for everyone is quite a difficult science, as all sciences are. It does not instruct how to live and what to be. It does not even prescribe recipes for upbringing. It only investigates in which circumstances children will be all right, and in which circumstances they will definitely get into trouble.
· What are two basic needs of children?
· Why is parental suspicion dreadful for children souls?
· Why does a burning desire for happiness matter the most?
· Where does evil come from?
· Is it possible to indulge a child with joy?
· How do problems in upbringing turn out to be problems of justice?
· What is needed for compassion to appear in a child?
· Who has the right to be irritated?
· Why is power struggle the worst thing in parenting?
· Why is magnanimity a must in upbringing?
· Do children learn from their successes and achievements or from their mistakes?
Back cover of Parenting For Everyone
SOL
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What a great topic! One worth exploring. I will be slowly reading it. It seems to me that answers to how to bring up children existed and still do in our Native knowledge, values, cultures.
Only the book of Soloveychik is as if it is written especially for me. I became more peaceful in my relationship with children. I am scolding them less and I stopped punishing them at all. I began to pay attention to what I say to my children. I analyze and understand more about myself.