What is the noise out there? Your three year old fights with your five year old? What are they fighting about? Are they fighting over a toy? No, they fight over who is more important, more significant, who is worthier and by how much. They struggle to prove that their value is higher or, at least, equal to the other’s value, not the least. Therefore they cry. “The biggest offense is not that I am not getting the toy, but that you don’t give it to me because you assume that you deserve it and I don’t! It is unfair.” That is why children cry. That is why children are stubborn. “I want this done my way because I want you to admit that I am worthy and you have to take this fact into account.” This is your kids’ quest for their dignity. Adults too constantly look at each other dignities: who is who? Every human relationship is a quest for dignity.
Usually, people learn about their dignity in childhood. When people become adults they don’t ponder upon their dignity. They know it as a matter of fact. So they devote their adulthood to other things. Knowing about dignity makes a person be less vulnerable to other opinions, assessments, criticism, etc. Simultaneously this knowledge makes the person responsible because he keeps his life up to the standards, which his sense of dignity dictates to him. Therefore morally healthy adults have a healthy sense of dignity.
Unfortunately, when people don’t learn about their dignity or they learn about it in the wrong way they devote the rest of their life to the learning process about their dignity. In every action of those people there is a question: Am I worthy? Am I deserving? Not knowing about dignity in childhood has a heavy consequence for the rest of one’s life. People who didn’t find the answer for their question in their childhood continue searching for the truth about themselves in their adulthood. Therefore they remain immature and self-centered. The life for such people becomes an endless quest for the truth about their dignities.